By: Miley Hart | Feb. 26, 2016
We should consider ourselves so lucky to be able to find a person who completes us, understands us, wants us and pines for us. Love is a special thing and, for some, it is a rare and exotic concept. Even when we do find that one person with whom we would love to spend the rest of our lives, or even if it has been the easiest relationship in history, we often find ourselves desiring more, needing more and wanting more. When the passion dies down, desire -- or wanting -- makes its entrance, and it can either make or break your relationship. It is imperative to keep things fresh and exciting, to step outside of your comfort zone and to make compromises in order to keep your lovely fish hooked on that thin line of meaningful, satisfying companionship.
The Elephant in the Room
While we will admit that there is a small percentage of the population who only fantasize about their significant other, we would like to help the other more significant percentage of the population, who battle desire and lust on the daily, to understand and work with the elements that drive them. We must accept that we are, by nature, always looking for the best possible mate. Procreation is essential to the survival of our species and, though we are one of nature’s most intelligent creatures, we are still governed by the chemicals and instincts that
have ensured our legacy, even at the cost of our own personal demise. We must embrace the fact that desire in and of itself is not inherently destructive to our lives. Desire pushes us to test our limits, explore our boundaries and chase our dreams. So how do we marry desire and passion?
Demolish the Routine
You’ve been together for years now… you’ve heard him fart in his sleep, you’ve seen her pick her nose, and at this point, there is probably not a whole lot that you haven’t seen from your mate! Well, while you won’t be able to save them from their midnight flatulence, you can disrupt your normal routine and bring the spark of passion back into your relationship. NEVER underestimate the element of surprise. Kayak picnics with a bottle of wine, tickets to his favorite game or concert, a romantic night at a fancy hotel, a bottle of champagne and a kinky request... There are so many things that you can do, and should do, to keep your lover captivated and satisfied. Pay attention to what they love and act on it. Always!
Explore Your Sexuality
You’ve tried all the positions… You know to what your lover responds best, what feels the best for you, and everything in between. This is a perfect time to explore your sexuality. Experiment with light bondage and spanking, experiment with new toys and aphrodisiacs. I absolutely love it when my husband gets a couple of fingers in my back ribs and presses firmly, it tickles and excites me to no end. So always, always try new things and ask your lover what drives them wild. For more adventurous couples, exploring threesomes or even meeting other swingers can be great ways to explore a couple’s sexuality. Don’t know where to start? Tinder is great for finding a like minded spirits. No matter what avenue you decide to explore, communication with your significant other is essential; being truthful about your sexual preferences will save your marriage and should lead to a more satisfying sex life.
So when you find yourself desiring more, or something different, while in an amazing relationship, open yourself up for introspection. Ask yourself those hard questions of what it takes keep that passion alive and get to the bottom of your lustful desires. Then, when you understand what you need and why you need it, you can start the process to actually staying in and RECEIVING it.